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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Are you addicted to anger?
- Michael was raised in a home where anger was used to control. His parents used their anger to attempt to control each other as well as their children. Sometimes the anger erupted into violence and Michael and his siblings would get physically hurt. Michael never knew when one of his parents would suddenly become enraged, so the threat was always there.Michael was the oldest of four children...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Are you invisible?
- Ellen was brought up to be invisible. She was taught to be very tuned into others' feelings and needs, but to never have any of her own. Her family made it clear to her that her job was to give to them but to never expect anything in return. As a result, Ellen learned to be totally tuned out to her own feelings and needs. It was as if she, as a person, didn't really exist, other than to be there f...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Success at work : people skills : complaining
- Do you know an individual at work who is a chronic complainer? Are YOU a chronic complainer? People don't like complainers. Listening to a chronic complainer gets people depressed. They prefer to associate with people that make them feel good. If you are always complaining about something, people will start to ignore you.If you're a chronic complainer, you're sabotaging yourself and your su...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Top ten things to build a bridge and get over
- God must love Top Ten lists because she made so many of them. They crowd my Inbox daily. They're right up there in popularity with offers to refinance my house and stock up on Viagra. Top Nine Lists are few and far between and Top Eleven lists unheard of. But for seem reason there seem to be ten nifty answers to pretty much any problem or life situation you can come up with.In search of my ...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Who are you mixing it with?
- I talk and write a lot about Life Design ? creating and sculpting a life that is fulfilling for you. It is about shaping your personal landscape and environment.Part of that environment involves being conscious of who you mix with and their effect on you. Beware of mixing with people who are consistently negative and critical, not only of themselves, but of others and their ideas.It'...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Its story time! - find the power within, or the truth about dogs
- I heard a story recently, and wanted to share it with you. It goes something like this:Once upon a time...The chief was sitting at the edge of the village, obviously deep in thought. He sat there for hours and hours, seemingly unmoving. The tribe was beginning to get worried and restless, but nobody wanted to disturb him. An elder eventually got up his courage and walked over. 'Chief...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - The x-factor
- Would you agree that today most of us have the same set of opportunities and the same set potential?If you agree with me, then perhaps you might like to consider this puzzling question: if we all have the same opportunities and potential why are some people more successful than others?It could be said that some people are more privileged than others, and while this is certainly true,...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - 12 reasons to develop exceptional people skills
- Why should you bother to spend your valuable time learning how to develop exceptional people skills?Here's why...Look at the people who seem to have it all - a great job, an active social life and a happy family life. What do these people have in common?They all have excellent communication skills.To join the people at the top and to live a more fulfilling and enjoyable...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - How to jump-start your emotional health
- You've probably heard the expression: "It's not what you're eating. It's what's eating you!" This well-known saying reminds us that the thoughts we entertain can have an impact on our health.Scientists have discovered that what you're thinking actually affects your physical health as well as your emotional well-being. Ulcers, indigestion, nervousness, high blood pressure and a wide variety ...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Could you be a workaholic?
- If you need to put on boots and grab a lap-top computer to relieve yourself at night, you might be a redneck workaholic.It never crossed my mind that there could be such a thing as a redneck workaholic, until I read a column on "Are you a workaholic?""Did you read this?" I asked my wife. "Are you a workaholic? It looks just like those you-might-be-a-redneck jokes."...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Fear of intimacy
- Emotional intimacy is one of the most wonderful experiences we ever have. Nothing else really comes close to the experience of sharing our deepest thoughts and feelings with another, of being deeply seen and known, of sharing love, passion, laughter, joy, and/or creativity. The experience of intimacy fills our souls and takes away our loneliness.Why, then, would someone be afraid of intimac...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Being an emotional victim
- None of us like to think of ourselves as victims. The term "victim" brings to mind a pathetic image of a person who is powerless. Therefore, It comes as a shock to most of us to realize how often we allow ourselves to be emotional victims. Having counseled individuals, couples, families and business partners for 35 years, I know that many of us are victims much of the time without realizing it....
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Why?
- I met Sean a year and a half ago in a crowd of 50,000 people. We struck up a conversation and really hit it off. He gave me his number, which I forgot. I thought about tracking him down, but figured if it was meant to be we would meet again. Three weeks later I got a phone call from him, and we have been together ever since, until about a month ago.I left my friends and my life that I was u...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - The rewards and risks of personal freedom
- We all need to decide whether to "play it safe" in life and worry about the downside, or instead take a chance, by being who we really are and living the life our heart desires. Which choice are you making?One of the first things I noticed about my newly purchased parrot, was that he couldn't fly. Chico's wings had been clipped and he was stuck here on earth just like us humans.Once ...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - A small piece of carpet
- Have you ever noticed how the way you feel about yourself sometimes depends on whether or not you get confirmation of your value from others? When you enter into challenging situations with a positive self identity you will discover that you are living your life with a greater sense of enjoyment and fulfillment.I have learned a lot about nurturing a positive identity of love and appreciatio...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Trust in the moment, and trust in yourself
- Do you often get yourself upset and feeling less than fully confident, as part of your preparation for facing a daunting challenge? You can improve your performance if you let your somatic intelligence lead the way."You move too much to be effective." Tamura sensei softly shouted at me. "You need to give your opponent a clearer target to strike at."We were in the middle of studying how to d...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Five steps to vocational passion: a disciplined plan for major mid-life changes
- There's a famous song lyric that asks: "Is that all there is?" Every seven seconds, an American turns 50 years old. So there's a good chance that song is running through some of their heads.The question captures the ennui that many people feel in mid-life. They look up at the clock, see it ticking, and begin counting in their heads all the mountains not climbed, the poems not writ...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Among the purpose & personality
- I have one magical thought, lets see it more closely. Every one has purpose of life. Some holds good for self, family, a society, state, nation, religion, world, etc.Personalities are engaged to realize the purpose by executing definite plans & process.It is an interesting, amazing accepted norm of society that on several occasions, we neglect & forget the "P R O C E SS " &...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Do you make these common mistakes when talking to people?
- Many moons ago. Talking to people was something I avoided where possible.At the time, I did not know I was unconsciously setting myself up for failure. I kept making the same mistakes without even noticing what I was doing wrong.You may be doing the same thing.Here are three common mistakes together with tips on how to deal with them:1. Judging Your Performance Against ...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - The amazing secret to ridding yourself of self consciousness
- One of the biggest challenges to developing superior communication skills is that you already have your hands full in those situations where you need help. Take a typical scenario - meeting new people.If I give you tips for listening more effectively and you rush off to practice the tips you may not get very far no matter how hard you try. Why? Because you are likely to be self conscious wh...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - How to deal with people who dislike you
- When you read books on personal development and articles about making your life better the emphasis is generally on the positive.You learn all about deciding what you want and how to get it. However you also need specific guidelines for dealing with situations when nothing seems to be working despite your best efforts.One of the hardest things to deal with is the fact that some peopl...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - How to turn around a sinking conversation - 7 tips
- When a conversation is not working out there is the potential for massive frustration or a breakthrough depending on how you look at it.1. Question your assumptions about the other personPerhaps the breakdown in communication is based on rumors that have no basis in reality. You may be unfairly judging the other person and filtering every word he speaks because of a false image of wh...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - How to quickly and easily deal with rude people
- Where I live there seems to be a a growing population of rude and vulgar people. And no matter how hard I wish for things to change it is not going to happen. It is up to me to change how I think and feel about these people. The same applies for you.1. What does it mean when someone is rude?Your initial angry reaction may be to think the person is a moron but that only makes matters ...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Four common rapport building mistakes and how to fix them
- 1. Pretending You Are Interested When You Are NotDo yourself a favor and be honest with yourself and the people you spend time with. If you are really not interested in the topic of conversation say so.If possible change the subject or simply postpone that particular conversation until another time.Obviously if there is a danger of offending the other person you will have to b...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - How to kill fear when dealing with aggressive people
- The book Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers is regarded as a self help classic. Have you read it?I read it many years ago and I was disappointed by the content of this book that has helped a lot of people take control of their fears. Why? Because I believe we all have the power to go far beyond feeling the fear.And I really think it is important to learn how to transform...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - 3 easy steps to low stress communication
- Life is all about choices. And so is the way you communicate. You can fill your days with frustrating high stress communication or you can have days of low stress effective communication with your peers.Now take a moment to learn three ways to have low stress communication.1. Recognize Positive IntentionsWhen someone you are talking to is unkind, negative or downright rude it ...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - 3 secrets to developing superior people skills
- 1. If What You Are Doing Is Not Working Change Your ApproachWhen I was in school I always had a small group of close friends but I never found it easy meeting new people. By the time I reluctantly entered the work force it was clear that my communication skills were limiting my progress.The fact that I was as capable or even more capable than my peers meant little when I was unable t...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Say adios to the fear of rejection!
- Do you ever get an uncomfortable feeling in your stomach when you have to approach someone?In situations like this does your mind go blank?This is not unusual. That feeling is often the fear of rejection.When you feel afraid your emotions take over, you feel tense and your ability to think logically vanishes into thin air.And that is why you can talk to close friends wi...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - 4 ways to avoid looking stupid when making small talk
- The fear of saying something silly and feeling embarrassed stops many of us from contributing more to discussions at work and when we are relaxing with friends.And ironically the more we worry about it, the more tense we get and the more likely we are to say something stupid.Let us a take a look at some remedies:1. Learn to relax when you feel under pressure.I often tal...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Three great ways to deal with negative people
- 1. Do not believe everything you hear!With close friends and family it is not unusual to think that you ought to take onboard everything you hear. However do not confuse caring with knowing.Just because someone is concerned for your welfare does not mean that their advice or input has value. For example, I know a lot about peak performance. I do not know much about car maintenance....