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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Drop and gimme ten!
- Every one of us have dreams, desires and goals that we put on the shelf. In front of them are a litany of excuses -- but not one reason -- why they aren't being pursued. Here are among the most popular:- I'm waiting for the kids to get out of school.- I'm waiting for my tax return come in.- I 'm waiting for just the right time.- I'm waiting for the kids to go back to sc...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - How to solve disputes with the helicopter talk technique
- Do you ever find that when a friend asks for your opinion on a problem it is a lot easier for you to see a solution than it is for your friend?And do you also find that sometimes you feel completely stuck when it comes to your own problems?The same applies to disputes, relationship issues and disagreements.When you are part of the problem it can be very difficult to see a solu...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - 3 keys to making small talk easy to do
- Small talk used to be really hard work for me. I never knew what to say and I always worried about saying the wrong thing.Then something awful happened to me....I had to take a job dealing with the public. My worst fears came true and I had to make small talk with a whole range of people each and every day.I found it difficult, tedious and nerve wracking.Eventually afte...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Why pacing and leading is for wimps!
- Okay, you have read some books on body language and they all said you must mirror and match, pace and lead....And you failed miserably when you went out into the real world.Let me tell you why and what you need to do instead. But first a story that illustrates my point...A few years ago I moved into a very well paid position in the company where I worked. And in my new job I w...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - How to tune in your brain & feel confident with people in moments
- One day when I was in school, many years ago, the school principal wandered into our class room, sat down and started to talk.He talked and talked; and there was nothing we could do to stop him seeing as how he was in charge!For once he actually said something that interested me and I never forgot what he said. Not because he was so original but because he was the first person I hear...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Feeling self-conscious? 6 tips to turn it around fast!
- When you feel self-conscious it means you are putting too much attention on your self, too much focus on what you are doing and how you are doing it. And this is a formula for poor performance.The secret then to dealing with this problem is to become other conscious.If all you do is shift your focus from self to others you will communicate better, perform better and become a far bett...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - 4 quick, easy ways to say no to people who take you for granted
- No matter how wonderful you are sometimes other people will try to take advantage of your good nature. They will push you, get you to do more than your fair share and keep asking you to do even more.And worst of all -- often your efforts will be taken for granted. Unless you can say No, the situation will not change in fact it may get even more difficult.That is unless you can say No...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Walt disney, the inspiration to form a better life?
- You, like many others, may have come to this article because you want more from life. In this sense, you and I may be alike because we're searching for greater happiness and a stronger sense of fulfillment.If you are someone in your thirties or older, and perhaps western, then you, like me, may have read enough adventure stories or seen enough Walt Disney to have been heartened by the stori...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Curbing the public nuisance (part 2)
- Yes, that pillar of society that has been with us since that slithery dude threw humanity for a curve in the Garden of Eden ? that cornerstone of society has been automated.I am speaking, of course, of the public nuisance ( I wrote about him in Part 1 at http://www.thehappyguy.com/nuisance1.html. )No longer do pest...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Curbing the public nuisance (part 1)
- He's been around since the dawn of humanity. His profession is even older than the world's oldest profession. He's been loathed and reviled by politicians, bureaucrats and hot dog vendors.I am speaking, of course, of the public nuisance.He was that slithery dude in the Garden of Eden, taunting folks to shoplift. "Go on. Take a bite of the apple. The grocer will never know it's missss...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Avoid the tendency to underestimate your greatness
- As a whole I think there is a sad tendency in most of us to underestimate just how powerful we are. Just how much greatness lies inside each and every one of us - just waiting to get out. The reality is if you knew just how special you were - and how much greatness went into making you the unique you that you are I'm convinced you'd immediately know that nothing can truly keep you from achieving t...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Controlling behavior, loving behavior
- When Zack and Tiffany started counseling with me, they were on the verge of divorce after 16 years of marriage. Neither really wanted to end the marriage, yet both were miserable. Both of them believed that their misery was because of the other person, and both could clearly articulate what the other person was doing wrong."Tiffany is just so distant and unaffectionate most of the time...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Control, helplessness, and love
- During my 35 years of counseling individuals, couples, families and business partners, I have discovered that an important purpose of our controlling behavior in our relationships is to avoid the feeling of helplessness. One of the hardest feelings to feel is helplessness. Most of us are unwilling to even know what we are and are not helpless over. Our controlling behavior toward others generally ...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Eureka! i?ve found it!
- OK, so it wasn't quite that big of a deal. But I did find the "T" that mysteriously escaped from the word "not" in one of my articles a few months ago. Yep, I found it all right. Right at the end of what was intended to be the word "though". Of course, that misplacement resulted in a stupid sentence completely void of logic ? unless by chance you missed the "t&qu...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Are you controlling or loving yourself?
- How often do you hear a parental voice in your head that says things like, "You've got to lose weight," or "You should get up earlier every morning and exercise," or "Today I should get caught up on the bills," or "I've got to get rid of this clutter." Let's explore what happens in response to this voice.We have a very good reason for judging ourselve...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - D.i.s.c.i.p.l.i.n.e.
- What does this word really mean anyway? According to Webster's Collegiate Dictionary, 10th Edition, discipline, as a noun, is defined primarily as punishment. My, but that has a harsh ring to it. An alternate definition is self-control. Well, that's a little closer to my idea. I submit that discipline, as it relates to making your home business a success, is the following:D = Decision...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - It?s all to do with the way you wake up
- Do you start your day with anger, frustration and annoyance at the alarm and the need to get up? Do you wake up hoping the day will go away and you can get back to sleep? Have you lost the fun? The confidence to have a go at things. Are you struggling along? Are you just going through the rituals of life? Are you just doing enough at work? Doing what is necessary because you think you 'ought, shou...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Discovering your passion and purpose
- "I can't seem to discover why I'm on the planet.""What is my purpose here? I know there's something I'm supposed to be doing, but I don't know how to find out what it is.""I don't seem to be passionate about anything."I've heard these complaints over and over from my clients.Discovering our passion and purpose is vital to our joy and well-b...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Your responsibility
- The other day I decided to skip cooking dinner and ordered fast food, and I ended up finding an insect on it. My husband and I were shocked, grossed out, disappointed, and I do not know what else.The insect was not the only gift included; I also found the longest hair ever! After thinking about it, we concluded that it fell on the floor, and they decide to deliver the food anyways.I ...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Emotional dependency or emotional responsibility
- Emotional dependency means getting one's good feelings from outside oneself. It means needing to get filled from outside rather than from within. Who or what do you believe is responsible for your emotional wellbeing?There are numerous forms of emotional dependency:Dependence on substances, such as food, drugs, or alcohol, to fill emptiness and take away pain....
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Different new-years resolution - pass-it-forward
- Every 12 months, as the New-Year rolls around, we all brag about our New-Year's Resolutions. With inflated chests and with all the authority we can muster, we announce to any and every available ear, that we're going to lose weight, stop drinking and smoking so much, as well as spend more time with our family, in addition to investing more time down at the gym.Mostly our vision extends no f...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Fear is nothing to be afraid of!
- What do you do when fear shows up? Do you hide under the covers of life, shivering as you anxiously wait for the moment to pass or do you stand up with a confident smile and embrace it?Your answer to this simple question will have a considerable impact on the level of freedom, excitement and empowerment you experience on a daily basis. Whatever your response, the thing to remember is that y...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Change the words and change the world
- Excerpt From The Relationship Handbook: How to Understand and Improve Every Relationship in Your Life by Kevin B. BurkIf we want to change our lives in any way, all we need to do is to change our words, thoughts and beliefs. When we change the words, we change the world.Over the course of this handbook, you may discover a number of beliefs that no longer support you. By follow...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Mentors and coaches: how to be a great mentee or learner
- When you invest your time in being a mentee you will be rewarded with accelerated learning and experiences from your mentor. You will learn from and avoid the mistakes that they may have made, learn about your industry, meet great people, form valuable relationships and be able to mentor someone in your future. If your organisation offers a mentoring program, sign up and get involved. If there isn...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Mentors and coaches: how to find a great mentor
- A career coach or mentor is a person who can guide you with the benefit of their experience. He or she may be someone more senior from within your organisation or someone external to your organisation who has been successful in the field or skills you want to develop. The right mentor can help you accelerate career, boost your self-development and improve your working relationships. And remember t...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - A simple strategy for managing add
- As an ADD Coach, I usually begin my conversations with new and potential clients by saying, "Tell me about yourself and why you're looking for coaching." Most people answer with a long list of their ADD challenges. Very few people answer that they are looking to discover, enhance, or utilize their strengths. This is a big part of coaching, and a part that many people need a lot of help w...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Personal strategic planning
- I have a few questions for you ---What if we as individuals adapted and utilized some of the same tried and true processes and methods that have given businesses the edge they need to succeed over their competition? My sense is that understood and implemented correctly professionals would be able to gain the same competitive advantage. Remarkably, this is not anything overly complicated or new and...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - The tolerance effect
- While working with a client several months ago, we went through a process of identifying areas of personal strengths and weaknesses. Through this exercise, we discussed various characteristics and ended up deciding that there was opportunity for improvement in her level of "tolerance". A funny thing happened after that. When she found herself in a situation that had previously triggered ...
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - Coaching vs. directing - how does improv theater suggest you should lead your team
- An age old battle in improv that I believe resonates well with challenges we experience in the business world is the question of whether a team should have a coach or a director (in which case it should be called an ensemble). In addition there's the third option of the self coached team, which I will call committee from here on forward.Role - Director: - "Mold" to vision....
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- 2007-11-13 22:16:19 - You have a choice
- I'm a relationship coach and, unlike most, I deal with those 'other' relationships. Of course, I make love happen without wings and an arrow, but I really make a difference with business relationships, family relationships, community relationships, old and stale relationships and all the rest that we take for granted, lost or forgotten.I'm also an activist for ending hunger and for creating...